How many of you have been the Joey in this scenario? Come on be honest. My guess is most of us have. I will be the first to admit that I have totally been Joey Potter, in fact I basically AM Joey Potter as much as I hate it. I am practically mumbling out of the side of my mouth (if you don't know what I am talking about just youtube Joey Potter), quirky comments erupting from my mouth like lava from a volcano, and complaining about my teenage melodrama as we speak. I am here to talk about this problem that I call the Dawson- Joey problem/dilemma. The problem with this is that EVERYONE is always rooting for the best friends to get together. In the late 90's and early 2000's if you took a poll on who was rooting for Dawson and Joey to get together 95% of delirious teenagers, even adults would tell you that they would be team Joey and Dawson. Shoot this issue would blow the team Jacob and Bella, and team Edward and Bella fans out of the water. Forget making T-Shirts we will have a freaking Parade in honor of Joey and Dawson. There is just something about best friends that people love. The problem with this is it implants false hope in the Joey's of the world. Let's be honest most of the Joey's are the girls. We get all attached to the idea of our "Dawson's" being our soul mates because they get us, they share with us their life woes, they tell us things that make us feel special like this for example:
Dawson: "She's great. I mean, she's smart, she's beautiful, she's funny, she's a big ol' scaredy cat. If you creep up from behind her she'll jump out of her skin. It's pretty amusing. She's honest. She always calls them just like she sees them. You can always count on getting the truth from Joey even if the truth hurts. She's stubborn. We fight a lot. She can be so frustrating sometimes. But she's a really, really, good friend. I know her to a fault. She believes in me. And I'm a dreamer so it's so good to have somebody like that in my life. If she goes away, I don't know what I'm going to do. I mean, she's my best friend, you know? She's more than that. She's everything."
Wake up and smell the coffee man...you like the girl...right?
With a description like that we just know that they would never see any other girls they way they see us(insert eye roll here). Like the real Joey Potter we will agonize over our feelings for our "Dawson", and mill over whether or not we should tell him. Mean while our little beloved "Dawson" is just so oblivious to our ever growing feelings.
Finally the moment has come we are going to tell our best friend, or "Dawson's" how we feel our little hearts desires, how we have been planning our theoretical wedding for years (okay we might not get that detailed yet we don't wanna freak them out). For the major majority of us this is usually an epic fail of so many proportions. For you lucky ones way to beat the odds and land your man Dawson, now you can row off into the sunset on down the creek (HA HA:) ) For the majority like the real Joey we will get 1 of 2 responses.
Response 1: The "I thought we were just friends, I thought you understood that, and I don't want to ruin this perfect relationship that I have with you you are too special to me" Okay well played Dawson way to try and let us down easily, thus making it seem like our fault that we ever had feelings for you. We must have misread all of the sweet comments and compliments that you sent our way on a daily basis. The problem with this statement is the last little comment that was added in there for a little flavoring the "I have this perfect relationship with you, I don't wanna ruin it because YOU are too SPECIAL to me". Alright Dawson nicely done you have managed to let us down easy, but instilling in us false hope by telling us we are special. Obviously we are going to reason that you just aren't "emotionally ready". Congratulations Dawson you have done the impossible you have managed to shoot us down and make us hang on all in 1 sentence. You are def a freaking magician, giving Chris Angel a run for his money. Kudos my friend kudos...
Response 2: "I am sorry, but I am interested in someone else". Now our "Dawson's" took a tip from the REAL Dawson Leery. So it seems that there is another person in this picture a "Jen Lindley" if you will. So we pretend to be all supportive and not at all hurt by this revelation. We not so obviously walk away with our tail between our legs jealous of Jen Lindley wondering where the heck she came from, and wondering how he could fall for the Jen Lindley's of the world, when he had us the Joey Potter's who stuck beside him through thick and thin, even when he went through that awkward stage which you both swore to never talk about again, and who he shared his deepest darkest secrets with. We continue on in our friendship with our "Dawson's" pretending like nothing ever happened praying that he will break up with "Jen" and hoping he will be hit over the head with something really hard and realize that he really liked us the whole time. And when he does he will be ever so Dawson like run dramatically to our house with some cheesy Edwin Mccain or Nsync song playing in the background professing his undying love to us. Leaving the Jen Lindley's of the world in the dust pouting about their unfortunate luck.
If you are or have been the Joey in this situation I am sincerely sorry, I really am. I genuinely feel your pain. If you are the Dawson...you need to ask yourself some hard questions, and you need to get a clue because your instincts are severely lacking. To the world stop the madness stop instilling to us the idea that best friends make the perfect couple, help the Joey's of the world stop the Dawson- Joey Dilemma/Problem. To the Joey's stay strong, keep pushing on. Maybe he will realize that you are it, but make him work for it. If he doesn't maybe a Pacey will come along and surprise you, but that's a whole other story. :)
♥
Jamee
